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Wind & Wings 2
Monday, July 1, 1996
© Copyright 1996 by NewHeavenNewEarth

"ANOTHER thought-provoking exploration
of the extraordinary times in which we live."




Real Intimacy

Introduction by David Sunfellow
A Psychic Reading given by Ray Stanford


Dottie Titus


Linda O'Keefe & Lance Botthof


Bob Manrodt


Al Siebert ("Agile Al")

Gillian Holloway

James Gregory



"Real intimacy is bliss. Somewhere deep inside we sense that, but the price of the bliss is so high that most of us don't persevere in our search for it. That's because the sincere attempt to create healthy and intimate relationships is guaranteed to bring up everything that we've been running from for an entire lifetime -- maybe more than one. To be in relationship with others, we must face all that we've been avoiding in ourselves."

---From "The Kripalu Spirit: A Journal of Consciousness"



By David Sunfellow

We human beings are a strange lot. Even when our eyes and ears appear to be open, most of us are surprisingly blind and deaf. On the deepest level, many of us realize that there are vast regions of reality that we aren't aware of. There are angels, discarnates, auras, etheric forces, astral and casual realms, the God in one another, superhuman powers, God-like knowledge and understanding. Few of us ever experience these realities on a day to day basis. But as disconcerting as this may be, the greater tragedy may well be the meaningful moments we overlook in our common, everyday life. How many times has someone shared something with us and we responded without really listening, let alone really seeking to draw them out and understand. "Ah, I've heard this before. I know what this person is thinking, doing, feeling." Then we dismiss them and move on -- again, without having really paid attention.

In my mind, treating one another so haphazardly not only hurts ourselves and others, but I think it also keeps the doors tightly closed to the grander spiritual experiences we all hear about and long to partake in. In other words, if we were more alert to the common, everyday occurances of our lives, and spent more time really trying to listen and learn from one another, probing our depths together, I believe we would soon discover that doorways to other realities lied hidden therein. There is, in fact, an ancient legend where the Gods all gather together to decide where they can hide their greatest treasures so that human beings won't discover them. After considering numerous possibilities, the God's finally realize that there was only one place that was safely out of the reach of humans: inside human beings themselves. And that's where they decided to hide their greatest treasures.

And so it seems to be with us. If we could only learn to seize the common, everyday moment, it is my guess that all the universe would soon be ours...


"The Blind Man At The Gate"
A Psychic Reading Given by Ray Stanford

"Long ago, I remember a blind beggar sat each day beside the gate on the east side of the wall of the city of Jerusalem. For years he made that place his daily residence.

"So clever were his ears that he had learned the sounds of those who walked along the way. He could detect the man of wealth by his step, by the sound of his voice, even by the sound made by the texture of his clothes and shoes. By cleverness of the ear he could discern the Roman from the Jew; in fact, he could identify, with little difficulty, a man of almost any nation.

"By sound alone did he discern what he considered to be the worth of men. Those who dragged their feet or who let their sandals flap too much as they walked; those whose clothes were of insufficient crispness or weight (indicative of lack of wealth), he ignored, and did not even bother to raise his cup and ask for alms.

"One day footsteps were heard along the hillside and upward to the gate -- familiar footsteps, but of little importance to the beggar. By the sound of their feet and the timbre of their voices he recognized the walk of two fishermen from Galilee.

"Beside the fishermen as they passed by was the voice of a man he recognized as being from Nazareth. If I might know the beggar's thoughts at the time, they were, 'Ah, a man from Nazareth. Perhaps he has a family of the class of workers or carpenters, perhaps a maker of roofs. These fisherman, this laborer, would have no coins for me. Better to save my voice than to waste on them a forlorn hope of alms.' These were the words within his mind and heart.

"The fishermen were Simon and Andrew. The Nazarene was a man called Jesus.

"The beggar remained blind throughout his years; the slyness of his ear had stolen away the very opportunity that his eyes might see. Had his heart been prepared in love, he should at least have spoken. Or had he even asked, unknowing, sight might have been received. Yet, so it is that often men allow the greatest opportunity to walk by them. In blindness they hear its footsteps, but they judge its cadence by the ear of wisdom and fascination in things of the world.

"Who was the blind man at the gate? I am. It has taken me nigh two millennia to begin to hear anew. And still, my eyes do not see..."


"One's life does not lie. It expresses exactly what you really, inwardly believe. You may consciously claim that you are a loving person and indeed believe in love. But if you suffer from a loveless life, it testifies clearly that somewhere inside of you, you do not believe in love, you do not want to love, and you have your reasons -- that is, misconceptions -- for not loving. Hence, unconscious misconceptions can only be unearthed by looking at your life, your suffering, your frustration, your unfulfilled longings."

---From Pathwork Lecture #193,
"Resume of the Basic Principles of the Pathwork: Its Aim and Process."



By Dottie Titus

One of the basic premises of the Pathwork is that we constantly create our lives, the outward manifestation of our inner state. We have unlimited power to create. We want to create our lives positively and become fulfilled, happy, blissful; but as long as we are unaware of our negative intentions, they are more powerful than our positive ones. Whenever we fail to see negative aspects of ourselves, we give those aspects more power, more energy.

So one of the first things we have to do to begin to change our experience is to look at our lives honestly and ask: Where am I unfulfilled? Where do I long for something and not get what I long for?

The next step is to go even deeper into truth with ourselves and search for the part of us that doesn't want the fulfillment we long for. This takes a lot more courage and more honesty. Sometimes it's very hard to believe that you don't want what you think you want. One technique that can help is to sit quietly and feel your longing, feel it strongly. Then slowly begin to imagine it being fulfilled. Do this consciously, not as an escape into fantasy. Just visualize your dream coming true. Notice how you feel about it. Is there joyous acceptance? Or is there some level of discomfort? Do you find yourself spacing out? Or does your visualization get interrupted by more "realistic" notions of why it can't work?

There are some common themes that often underly the negative intent to avoid what we long for:

1. Sometimes, it feels safer to be proven right in our negative belief than to risk something different happening ("I knew it wouldn't work").

2. Sometimes we feel unlovable or undeserving at a very deep level.

3. There may be a fear that if we get what we want, we are going to be punished for asking for too much.

4. There may be a demand that what we want must be perfectly in accord with how we want it to be.

5. There may be an inner child that is still striving to overcome a childhood situation. This inner child may want to create a negative situation just so he/she can "win" this time around. Whatever your particular variation is, see if you can find the place in you that really prefers things the way they are now.

Finding the negative intentionality is a life-changing event. Once we bring the negativity to light, we can begin to consciously work with it and change it. As the Guide says, "This is why the pathwork is, above everything else, a process of making things conscious. This self-awareness unifies you, unifies the split in you, unifies conflicts in you and establishes your sense of self and your knowledge that the universe with all its bliss is yours."


Dottie Titus is a Pathwork Counselor-In-Training with the Sevenoaks Pathwork Center in Virginia. Dottie has completed the five-year Pathwork Transformation Program at Sevenoaks as well as two years training as a Pathwork Counselor. She is currently enrolled in a two-year Pathwork Helper Training program at Sevenoaks and facilitates the NHNE Pathwork Circle Mailing List. If you would like to join the NHNE Pathwork Circle Mailing List, which has been created to discuss and apply the material contained in the Pathwork Lectures, send a letter to "nhne@nhne.com" and write "pathworkcircle" in the SUBJECT field of your letter.

If you would like to find out more about Eva Pierrakos and the Pathwork lectures, an NHNE Special Report on the subject is available in the database section of the NHNE web site: http://www.sedona.net/nen/nhne/pathwork.html The Pathwork New York Region also has a Web site at: http://www.pathwork.org

eMail: DottieT@aol.com



By Linda O'Keefe & Lance Botthof

Let's face it, without honest communication, our relationships are doomed to be confusing, at the very least. Yet forthright, direct communication does not come easily because, for most of us, it didn't exist in our families and wasn't taught to us as children. Many of us learned that it was wrong to steal or tell lies, but how many of our parents supported us in emotional honesty? The accepted, often times only permissible response to, "How was your day at school," was an automatic, "Fine." Even as adults, how do we most often answer the question, "How's it going?" There simply wasn't and isn't full acceptance out in the world for us to be emotionally honest. So most of us are still struggling with the definition of emotional honesty, much less have the tools for practicing it in our relationships.

First, let's look at why this kind of honesty is vital to experiencing true intimacy in relationships. Our natural connection with God, ourselves and others is spiritual in nature and the way we experience this connection is through our feelings. This is obvious while experiencing our joy, hope, love and sense of wonder about our connection with the universe. Less often do we connect God with our anger, shame, fear, guilt and hopelessness. It has been said, though, that God needs all of us. This is true in our intimate relationships as well. The degree of intimacy we can expect to enjoy with others is in direct proportion to our ability to share the fullness of who we are. So if we're asked, "How's it going?," and we reply with the well rehearsed "Fine" when we're really feeling sad, angry, hurt or something else that could hardly be defined as "Fine," then we are leaving God, ourselves and the other person. Obviously, in order for this honest expression to take place it's necessary to be aware of our true feelings first.

Our feelings are energy, so even if we're not in touch with what they truly are, we're still projecting them in communication with others. Since we're always feeling something, this leaves us with two choices: to be in touch with all our feelings and communicate them directly, or to project our feelings and communicate something else, which creates confusion and misunderstanding. Most of us respond to what others are feeling/projecting, not what is being said. The obvious trick here is to know what we really are feeling. This is where our intimate relationships can provide a valuable mirror if we are willing to look at what is being reflected to us. A large part of self-honesty is being open and teachable about seeing what feelings we may be projecting that we're not in touch with. Many of us just have a difficult time in saying "Ouch" when it hurts instead of going into anger, explanations, rationalizations, protecting others or a hundred other defenses.

In short, emotional honesty is an acquired skill that doesn't come overnight and requires practice and patience. One suggestion is to reflect back on our communication in intimate relationships and ask the question: "Did what I say accurately express all of what I was feeling? Did I say 'Ouch' if it hurt?" If we keep our focus here and are open to new information, a higher level of honesty will develop with ourselves and others.


Linda and Lance together have nearly 20 years of personal recovery and counseling experience. Their marriage partnership is founded in a deep commitment to continued personal growth. They seek to share their inspiration with others interested in discovering the power of relationships. Their site on the World Wide Web (http://www.sedona.net/nen/options) is dedicated to empowering others towards this end. Included therein, is information on a "Relationship Help Line", designed to help callers with relationship concerns and "Life Shift", a two to four-day personal & spiritual growth intensive held in Sedona, Arizona. Linda and Lance can be reached at:

Options For Growth
2675 W Hwy 89A, Suite 1153
Sedona, AZ 86336
(520) 204-9441
eMail: Options@sedona.net


Now here's something worth noting. Gillian Holloway recently told Al Siebert about NHNE and Al dropped me a line introducing himself and offering to write an article. Meanwhile, half way across the continent, another one of our columnists, Bob Manrodt, recently spent time with Al at a conference in Pennsylvania. Unaware that Al would be writing something for this issue of WIND & WINGS, Bob was so impressed with Al that he decided to use a portion of his space to introduce Al to all of you!

Someone must think Al has something important to share with us...

---David Sunfellow


By Bob Manrodt

Recently at a conference in Pennsylvania sponsored by THE PENNSYLVANIA STATE MENTAL HEALTH CONSUMERS ASSOCIATION, I had the pleasure of spending some time with Dr. Al Siebert, the conference keynote speaker. "Agile Al" and I shared personal stories and observations and he impressed me with his authenticity, sly humor and candor. "The ones who survive," says Al, "are the Hawkeyes of the world, not the Rambos."

When Al told me about his "WELLER THAN WELL" RESEARCH PROJECT my heart leaped. We were kindred souls. Agile Al was inspired to undertake this project at least in part by Karl Menninger, the famous psychiatrist who says: "Some patients have a mental illness and then get well and then get weller... This is an extraordinary and little realized truth." Al asks that people help his Project locate "people who were diagnosed by psychiatrists as mentally ill, but were transformed by their experience and became stronger, better, more talented, more productive, more effective, and so forth."

It was my privilege to present several workshops related to spiritual emergency and spiritual experience in psychiatric settings at this conference. My own intense interest follows my own radical experiences of more than 27 years ago. My workshops included the opportunity for psychiatric survivors to express their spiritual experience. I also presented information on alternative ways of looking at anomalous experience and explored methods useful for working with experiences and their after-effects. The heart of the seminars was the support and the sharing. Workshop participants were graced with many deeply inspirational and heartfelt stories. People appreciated the freedom and opportunity to express their personal experience.

In psychiatry, there is a great taboo on expressing "religious ideation" or "ideas of reference" (i.e. synchronicity). Sadly, in psychiaric contexts, experiences which are full of meaning are very often totally denied and/or suppressed by psychiatric drugs. Stories don't get expressed. Let us offer to people in psychospiritual crisis possibilities of transformation, not pathological labeling.

In the future, THE SACRED TRANSFORMATIONS WEB SITE will have more on alternatives to psychiatry. Right now we have many stories of awakenings, spirituality and transformation, and more is on the way. For more on Agile Al's work with the "WELLER THAN WELL" database, visit SUCCESSFUL SCHIZOPHRENIA:



Bob Manrodt is the creator of SACRED TRANSFORMATIONS, a unique Web site that tracks, shares and explores the growing number of spiritual awakenings that are presently taking place all over the planet. When not working on his site or corresponding with people who are wrestling with issues dealing with spiritual awakenings, Bob hosts a number of workshops and meetings dealing with spiritual emergency themes.

eMail: bobby@ptd.net
WWW: http://www.well.com/www/bobby/



By Al Siebert ("Agile Al")

This surge of interest in transformation is one of many signs that the human race is breaking through to its next level of development.

Many years ago my studies of people who survive, overcome, and gain strength from extremely difficult experiences led me to conclude that I had accidentally discovered a new kind of human emerging on the planet. I referred to such persons as having a "survivor personality" even though they could just as well be described as having "synergistic" or "serendipity" personalities. In a 1983 article I estimated that about 1 person in 100 had this new nature and predicted this would be the normal or typical human of the future.

When Bernie Siegel read my article (AHP NEWSLETTER, Aug-Sept, 1983) he wrote to me saying I had described the exceptional cancer patients. He said that a few people with advanced stages of cancer defy their doctors' predictions and get well. The survivors typically say they are thankful for the cancer, it was a wake-up call, and they are better for having had it. He estimated that about 1 cancer patient in 100 was this way. Now he and I agree that we are seeing about 1 person in 10 this way, a sign that the transformation is picking up speed.

A sign of the magnitude of the transformation is the way people have responded to Jean Auel's historical novel "The Clan of the Cave Bear." The main character, Ayla, is a Cro-Magnon girl separated from her family, almost killed by a lion, and found by a Neanderthal clan. The clan restores Ayla to health and adopts her. This happens in the first few pages. The rest of the book shows what it feels like to have a Cro-Magnon brain when everyone is trying to teach you how to be a good Neanderthal.

Ayla's story stirred thousands of people who feel out of place in a world trying to teach them how to be good Cro-Magnons. The Cro-Magnon urge to perceive people as nouns and coerce people into "fitting in" is alien to the nature of the new synergistic human.

Synergistic people are like children who never grow up. They have a playful curiosity that leads to self-motivated, self-managed learning in the school of life. As the years go by they get better and better. They become increasingly life competent or "life smart." Their amazing flexibility is derived from paradoxical or counter-balanced personality traits. They read others well because they are empathic and intuitive. Their interactions are creative and useful. The best ones thrive in adverse situations because of their talent for serendipity.

The key to understanding people with synergistic personalities is to see that their need to have things work well for themselves and others is so strong, they allow situations to influence the personality qualities they exhibit. The best way to spot a synergistic person, thus, is not to study their personality qualities, but rather to notice how things are working around them.

For me, this is the most exciting time in the entire history of the human race to be alive and participating in the churn of our transformation to the next level of development. It is especially interesting to see that the transformation is being accelerated by significant changes in the workplace.

Some corporations striving to be lean, learning and agile, have done way with job descriptions. They no longer want obedient employees, they want self-directed, synergistic employees with professional attitudes and values. At the same time, thousands of very capable people fed up with trying to work within Cro-Magnon organizations have decided to never work for someone else again. The fastest growing new form of employment is people starting home-based businesses. When I speak to such groups it is like preaching to the choir. All of the successful ones identify with my descriptions.

The main problem I encounter in trying to facilitate the emerging new human is bumping into people who try to filter the new human through Cro-Magnon thinking. (Examples: What is your data? How can we train people to have survivor personalities? What test can we use to separate "survivors" from "losers"?)

I would like to hear from others who have the same interest and have encountered the same communication challenges.


A short version of Al Siebert's description of the survivor personality can be found in Chapter Eight of "Love, Medicine, & Miracles" by Bernie Siegel. A revision of Al's book, "The Survivor Personality," with a Foreword by Bernie Siegel, will be published by PERIGEE BOOKS, a Putnam/Berkley imprint, in September (ISBN: 0-399-52230-1). A complete paper on the new synergistic human is at Al's THRIVEnet Web site: http://www.thrivenet.com. He can also be reached via email at: asiebert@aol.com


By Gillian Holloway

As a dream analyst I hear dozens if not hundreds of dreams each week. During a recent series of interviews across the United States I was fascinated that listeners from vastly different locales and backgrounds phoned in about dreams of "the end of the world." Most callers worried these dreams might foreshadow actual events, requesting help in trying to determine what such imagery might represent. Could the burning cities, tidal waves, earthquakes and floods in their dreams be our inevitable fate?

Possibly. However dreams are powerfully influenced by the time and culture and in which the dreamer lives. The ideologies, fears, and superstitions that surround us bombard our psyches and are woven into the settings of our dreams. Since most images of death in dreams symbolically represent change, visions of planetary doom may also represent planetary change, rather than the end of all life.

While accepting the possibility of precognition, I believe the most productive way to approach any dream is to begin by looking for personal metaphorical material. In working with the "end days" dreams of clients and students a few commonalties have emerged that may help you in understanding similar dreams of your own. In a fascinating, poetic manner, the type of disaster in the dream appears to reflect a type of transition, pain or fear the dreamer is moving through on a personal level.

1. Earthquakes are frequently associated with a deeply felt, frightening change in a primary relationship or the foundation of one's life.

2. Tidal waves often appear in the dreams of someone going through an unwanted or uncontrollable change that evokes strong, overwhelming emotions.

3. Burning or ruined cities sometimes symbolize a destructive relationship or social connection that has become disastrous.

4. Floods commonly pertain to sudden uncontrollable feelings of sadness and grief associated with a recent experience that is often linked to an old wound.

5. Changed continents often reflect a powerful change in the perceptions and focus of the dreamer. The land above water represents conscious awareness and what is submerged represents unconscious material. During personal transitions, what we are conscious of and care about appears to shift as if we become attuned to a different bandwidth of experience.

6. Dreams of "guidance" in which a voice informs the dreamer of a time-line for the end, tend to be related to an upcoming change in the dreamer's life. Numerous clients have lived through their appointed dates for global change and discovered a personal shift of enormous impact effected them at that time.

In working with an apocalyptic dream, consider what symbolism may be involved reflecting personal changes, fear and transition, often of an uncontrollable irreversible nature. If you still have the intuition that the dream may be a glimpse of a possible global future, then honor your belief with appropriate prayer, preparation and action. During times such as these, we must all remain open to guidance while practicing rigorous scrutiny, common sense and discernment.


Gillian Holloway, Ph.D., is a Dream Analyst with a marvelous site on the World Wide Web dedicated to dreams and dreamwork. Called, "LIFETREKS: DREAM INTERPRETATION SERVICES & RESOURCES," Gillian's site is full of valuable information, insights and resources concerning dreams. Along with creating and maintaining a Web site, Gillian is also a dream author, lecturer and counselor. If you have any interesting dreams you would like to share, Gillian's site also has a section dedicated to the "Dream of the Month."

eMail: gholloway@lifetreks.com
WWW: http://www.lifetreks.com/~dreams


By James Gregory

Most of us believe in angels -- and why not? They are beautiful, comforting, and sometimes intervene in our lives at times of need. There is no down side to angels, no risk, and a belief in angels does not diminish our appreciation of God -- after all, angels are God's gift to us. Some people know angels as cherubs, archangels, spirits, heavenly warriors, celestial messengers, or by their signs: a smell of roses or lilac, an odor of sanctity, a bright light.

The Bible is full of stories of angels:

-- An angel stayed Abraham's hand as he was about to offer his son Isaac as a sacrifice.

-- The angel of death passed over all the Israelites in Egypt and slew every firstborn across the land of the Pharaoh.

-- An angel appeared to Mary and asked her if she would be the mother of the messiah.

-- Angels appeared to Joseph on numerous occasions instructing him to marry Mary even though she was pregnant, to flee to Egypt from Herod's tyranny, and later to return when it was safe.

I have a favourite image from my time as a Catholic grade school student of a poster on the classroom wall of a young boy peering over the edge of a steep cliff. Behind him, with a firm grip on the back of the boy's pants, was a smiling guardian angel in all his glory. I like the thought that we all have guardian angels, someone to watch over us without judging. The only time my guardian angel makes me feel uncomfortable is when I am doing something that I would rather not be seen by anyone, such as... , well, you know what I mean -- we all have a private side that we prefer stays in the dark.

While I was walking down the street the other day, I picked up a bit of blowing paper and put it in a nearby garbage can. I didn't think much of it at the time, but later, at the end of a hard day, I realized that it may have been the most significant thing I did that day. What made the act important was the fact that I did not have to do it, I was not recognized for it, and by the action of picking up some litter, I left the world a little better than I found it.

I share this story, because I also realized that we could all be "angels" on earth. Have you ever done anything nice for anyone else without their ever finding out about it? That's how angels operate -- always in the background, never wanting anything for themselves. Try it sometime. Being an angel can take a myriad forms. How about leaving an anonymous card or flowers for someone you care about, just because? Strolling down the street, you could put a coin in an expired meter, especially if the car had a baby seat in it. It is so easy for a harried parent to lose track of such things as the time left on a parking meter and, "God knows, a parking ticket is the last thing we need with all the extra baby expenses!" Other possibilities are a donation to a worthy charity, doing chores that aren't yours, leaving a little surprise where you know someone will discover it, picking up garbage while you are out for a stroll. You have heard the expression: "Random acts of kindness and senseless acts of beauty" -- such are the trademarks of angels. Angels have no thought for themselves. Visit a sick friend in the hospital, make a meal for a family in distress, spend time with an old person who is lonely.

Being an angel normally costs more in time and thoughtfulness than money. One exception is tithing money. Spiritual law tells us that 10% of our gross income is God's money and should be given away without strings to do God's work. There are endless things angels can do with tithing money including leaving an anonymous envelope full of money for someone in financial distress, giving more than loose change to a beggar on the street, investing in a project that stands to do much good if successful.

So be an angel and through countless, anonymous acts of kindness make a positive difference. The world will be a better place for your being here. What more, after all, is there to life?


James Gregory is the Editor-in-Chief of the NHNE News Brief. He is also a geologist, budding mountain climber, hiker, explorer and lover of caves. Slowly but surely, James is blanketing the rugged terrain of Sedona with his footprints.

eMail: jpg@sedona.net
WWW: http://www.sedona.net/nen/nhn



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